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Regret. Because I never asked. Once a year, for over a decade, Professor Susan Scafidi invites me to give the final talk at Fordham University School of Law’s Fashion Law Bootcamp. I’m honored to contribute to the conclusion of this powerful program. And, once a year, for over a decade, after the event, a regret accompanies me home. As a speaker, my goal is to inspire with my career stories and my hard earned lessons. How would it look if I asked the audience to do something for me? I feared I would appear unprofessional or selfish. I feared I would lose credibility. I feared I would negatively impact the program. But after so much time, a bigger fear emerged. Above all, I feared additional regret. Preparing this year, I added a talking point. I had no excuse. I couldn’t forget. I wouldn’t regret. Near the end of my speech, while discussing the power of asking for the tangible, I took a breath. “I’ve given this talk for years and have no proof. I’ve been afraid to ask… and now I will. Can someone near the back please take a photo of me?” Laugher. 💕 I stood still, shoulders back, and smiled. 📸 After a few seconds, I continued my talk. When my presentation was over several students airdropped me files, thanked me, and shared stories of speakers who took selfies or asked for pictures during a presentation. And now I have a photograph of moment where I practiced what I preach. Ask for what you want. Even if it’s in the middle of a talk. #careertips #fashionlaw #regret PS - DM me your email address to get on my VIP list. You’ll learn about what you see on the screen - Dirty Legal Secrets - the theatrical works 🎭 and creative endeavors 📺 📝.

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Moira Sullivan

JD Candidate at UNH Franklin Pierce School of Law

1mo

It was amazing hearing you speak and being one of the students to take your picture!

Jeff Bergstein

Principal Owner at Jeff Bergstein Consulting, LLC

1mo

Love this impactful story Sarah. Asking is also a simple but somewhat stressful action for many people and is a ‘Critical’ part of any Negotiation. As you said so clearly, it’s how you ask that is the key part!!

🌱 Jason Shen

Helping unconventional founders & execs lead through hard pivots · Author: THE PATH TO PIVOT · Uncle Iroh with a side of Genie · 3x venture-backed startup founder · 1st gen immigrant · ADHD · Meta + Etsy alum

1mo

Love that you finally asked for the photo! The students are lucky to have your hard-earned wisdom. Next time you can make it a selfie!

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