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CEO of Grokker, the Employee Engagement Engine | Council Member Forbes HR | Workforce Wellbeing Speaker & Expert | Author | Forbes Contributing Editor

We’re in the middle of a loneliness epidemic, and the changing dynamics of the workplace are making it worse, not better. Yes, remote work is a contributing factor, but it’s not the only cause. Even workers who come into the office say that they feel less connected to their colleagues. Nonstop meetings are actually part of the problem. In-office employees spend a quarter of their time staring at screens in virtual meetings, and meeting time has tripled since 2020. (WSJ) That leaves less unstructured time for the impromptu chats that help people connect. The water cooler is where you learn that you and your colleague share an interest (or obsession) in the new season of House of the Dragon. It’s the passing conversation where you find out that one of your coworkers is thinking about sending his kids to the same summer camp your kids have gone to for years. The break room is where you discover that one of your teammates knows the best travel hack to help you locate lost luggage on vacation. Without these interactions, our connections are unraveling — 68% of employees say they know their co-workers on a personal level, down from 79% just five years ago. (WSJ) Things are especially tough for workers under the age of 35, who are more likely to say they feel lonely than older employees. (Gallup) As people become less involved in religious institutions and community groups, the workplace is where employees are turning to fill the gap and create a sense of belonging. We cannot let it slip away. We need to make it a priority again. I’m not suggesting employers be responsible for making sure our employees find friends. But we are responsible for making employees feel like they’re part of something bigger than themselves. It’s good for their wellbeing and for engagement. Grokker Innovation Labs’ latest research study revealed that creating a sense of belonging is one of the most important factors in moving the needle on employee engagement. Teams need to get together regularly to engage in activities unrelated to work. When the last Star Wars trilogy was released, we created an annual tradition of renting out the local cinema and taking the entire Grokker team to see each movie. Just last month, we hosted our Memorial Day picnic, and employees brought their favorite homemade items to share. Our CFO’s 24-hour baked beans are the perennial showstopper. The physical space we work in can have a distinct influence on creating a culture of belonging. At Grokker HQ, instead of having a bunch of 4-seater lunch tables, we have one enormous table where everyone sits for lunch. You don’t have to worry about whether you have a friend to eat with or if you are interrupting a private conversation. No awkwardness — just a welcome seat for everyone. At a time when manufactured social media posts are eclipsing real-life interactions, carving out space and time at work for genuine, human connection can combat loneliness and make everyone feel they belong.

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