CEO of Grokker, the Employee Engagement Engine | Council Member Forbes HR | Workforce Wellbeing Speaker & Expert | Author | Forbes Contributing Editor
My current sticky note reads: Listen and be unflappable. What does that mean? Well, it’s about knowing the difference between listening to someone and making them feel heard. Like many leaders, I have an open-door policy. I want people to feel comfortable sharing their ideas and concerns to avoid groupthink and ensure a variety of perspectives are considered. At times this can be challenging, especially when a colleague is sharing skepticism about an important project’s success or pointing out a flaw in how we are executing as a team. In those moments, it’s hard to avoid the urge to be defensive, negative, or dismissive. Cue sticky note…… But, if your goal is to listen without judgment and remain unflappable, you can take in what they’re saying, acknowledge it even if you disagree, and make them feel heard. It doesn’t mean you’re going to change the business approach or adjust your priorities. It means being okay with not automatically responding, defending, or giving an answer right then and there. Instead, what if you simply let people know you hear them and that you understand where they’re coming from? What if you thanked them for sharing and said you’ll get back to them later? You might not have a way to address every employee idea or concern. That’s okay. As long as you’re listening and being unflappable, you can make everyone feel heard. And that is pretty great. #Leadership
I’m just trying to recall when I’ve not been unflappably rude. Okay I never do that. Ha ha. BTW great thought.
I needed this today! Thanks for the sticky note!
Executive Director at Bridge Pledge
1moLove this one, LB. Same exact principles to receiving (unsolicited) feedback. “Thanks for raising this and bringing it to my attention.” And then, “I might need some time to process this. Is it okay if I come back to you with clarifying questions?”