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The Art Of Saying NO: How To Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time And Energy, And Refuse To Be Taken For Granted (Without Feeling Guilty!)
Stop Being A People Pleaser! Learn How To Set Boundaries And Say NO - Without Feeling Guilty!
Are you fed up with people taking advantage of you? Are you tired of coworkers, friends, and family members demanding your time and expecting you to give it to them?
If so, THE ART OF SAYING NO is for you.
Imagine being able to turn down requests and decline invitations with confidence and poise. Imagine saying no to people asking you for favors, and inspiring their respect in the process.
DOWNLOAD The Art Of Saying NO: How To Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time And Energy, And Refuse To Be Taken For Granted (Without Feeling Guilty!)
Amazon bestselling author, Damon Zahariades, provides a step-by-step, strategic guide for setting boundaries and developing the assertiveness you need to maintain them. You'll learn how to say no in every situation, at home and in the workplace, according to your convictions. And best of all, you'll discover how to get your friends, family members, bosses, coworkers, and neighbors to respect your boundaries and recognize your personal authority.
In THE ART OF SAYING NO , you'll discover:
my personal struggle with being a people pleaser (and how I overcame the habit!)
the top 11 reasons we tend to say yes when we know we should say no
10 simple strategies for turning people down with finesse
why saying no to people doesn't make you a bad person (the opposite is true!)
the best way to develop the habit of setting personal and professional boundaries
how to know whether you're a people pleaser (and how to gauge the severity of the problem)
PLUS, BONUS MATERIAL: dedicated sections on saying no to your spouse, kids, friends, neighbors, coworkers, clients, bosses, and even strangers!
If you're sick and tired of being taken for granted, grab your copy of THE ART OF SAYING NO today! Start taking control of your life by learning how to say that simple, beautiful word: "No."
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Are you fed up with people taking advantage of you? Are you tired of coworkers, friends, and family members demanding your time and expecting you to give it to them?
If so, THE ART OF SAYING NO is for you.
Imagine being able to turn down requests and decline invitations with confidence and poise. Imagine saying no to people asking you for favors, and inspiring their respect in the process.
DOWNLOAD The Art Of Saying NO: How To Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time And Energy, And Refuse To Be Taken For Granted (Without Feeling Guilty!)
Amazon bestselling author, Damon Zahariades, provides a step-by-step, strategic guide for setting boundaries and developing the assertiveness you need to maintain them. You'll learn how to say no in every situation, at home and in the workplace, according to your convictions. And best of all, you'll discover how to get your friends, family members, bosses, coworkers, and neighbors to respect your boundaries and recognize your personal authority.
In THE ART OF SAYING NO , you'll discover:
my personal struggle with being a people pleaser (and how I overcame the habit!)
the top 11 reasons we tend to say yes when we know we should say no
10 simple strategies for turning people down with finesse
why saying no to people doesn't make you a bad person (the opposite is true!)
the best way to develop the habit of setting personal and professional boundaries
how to know whether you're a people pleaser (and how to gauge the severity of the problem)
PLUS, BONUS MATERIAL: dedicated sections on saying no to your spouse, kids, friends, neighbors, coworkers, clients, bosses, and even strangers!
If you're sick and tired of being taken for granted, grab your copy of THE ART OF SAYING NO today! Start taking control of your life by learning how to say that simple, beautiful word: "No."
Scroll to the top of the page and click the "BUY NOW" button!
172 pages, Kindle Edition
First published January 1, 2017
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August 24, 2019
Meh. I got fed up and didn’t finish the last bit. This book should have been titled, “The art of explaining yourself to other people.” It covers 27 different excuses you can use instead of simply saying “no.”
No. Just no. “Why not?” Because I said no! I’m not going to waste my time trying to convince you my answer is acceptable. You don’t have to approve of my decision, your only role here is to accept it and move on. It’s pretty simple, really.
The one thing I did like was the suggestion to provide alternative people, places, or resources to help others meet their objectives. That one is a great idea and an easy way to quickly help someone move forward without getting directly involved. That’s a paragraph though, or maybe a blog post, the rest of the book is a waste of time.
No. Just no. “Why not?” Because I said no! I’m not going to waste my time trying to convince you my answer is acceptable. You don’t have to approve of my decision, your only role here is to accept it and move on. It’s pretty simple, really.
The one thing I did like was the suggestion to provide alternative people, places, or resources to help others meet their objectives. That one is a great idea and an easy way to quickly help someone move forward without getting directly involved. That’s a paragraph though, or maybe a blog post, the rest of the book is a waste of time.
April 30, 2020
کتاب دقیقا همون چیزیه که عنوانش می‌گه: چطوری به بقیه نه بگیم، به خودمون حق بدیم و جوری نه بگیم که کمتر باعث ناراحتی بقیه و حس بد خودمون به خودمون بشه.
به نظرم کتاب خیلی می‌تونست مختصرتر بشه جوری که من گاهی چشمی صفحاتش رو رد می‌کردم یا خیلی جاها برای رسوندن مطلب یه مثال کافی بود.
در مجموع به نظرم برای کسی که خیلی براش سخته نه بگه، کتاب ساده و خوبیه برای شروع مسیر ولی برای تکمیل تغییر نیاز به تمرین زیادی داره.
به نظرم کتاب خیلی می‌تونست مختصرتر بشه جوری که من گاهی چشمی صفحاتش رو رد می‌کردم یا خیلی جاها برای رسوندن مطلب یه مثال کافی بود.
در مجموع به نظرم برای کسی که خیلی براش سخته نه بگه، کتاب ساده و خوبیه برای شروع مسیر ولی برای تکمیل تغییر نیاز به تمرین زیادی داره.
February 24, 2019
Read the title. That’s the whole book. Really. Learn to say “No” to blog posts masquerading as books; starting with this one.
February 15, 2022
خوانش: 1400.11.26
خوندن یا نخوندنش تقریبا هیچ تفاوتی نداره. سراسر تکرار و البته تکرار مکررات.
البته موضوع کتاب باعث این همه تکراره. نویسنده اگه یه جستار��ویس خوب بود باید در کمتر از سی صفحه به‌خوبی کارش رو انجام می‌داد.
پیشنهاد می‌کنم در مرده‌ترین زمان‌هایی که دارید بخونید. اصلا کتابی نیست که نتونید به‌جای پست‌های اینستاگرامی بخونیدش.
خوندن یا نخوندنش تقریبا هیچ تفاوتی نداره. سراسر تکرار و البته تکرار مکررات.
البته موضوع کتاب باعث این همه تکراره. نویسنده اگه یه جستار��ویس خوب بود باید در کمتر از سی صفحه به‌خوبی کارش رو انجام می‌داد.
پیشنهاد می‌کنم در مرده‌ترین زمان‌هایی که دارید بخونید. اصلا کتابی نیست که نتونید به‌جای پست‌های اینستاگرامی بخونیدش.
January 23, 2022
Book so good, I said no to the book after 10 pages.
Book so good, I said no to my boss, and jobless now.
Typical self help book. Explaining same things a million times.
Some good points here and there
Book so good, I said no to my boss, and jobless now.
Typical self help book. Explaining same things a million times.
Some good points here and there
February 1, 2019
I like the fact this book covers many different life situations where you can say NO and also remember to take care of your own priorities; however, it also sounds like a book of excuses, where you’re provided with many ways to justify your NO...you don’t need to justify or explain yourself all the time. In a nutshell, despite not agreeing a 100% with the author, reading this book helped me understand the act of saying NO from various perspectives and I appreciate that.
February 17, 2019
Informative
I found a lot of truth in this book, things that helped me learn and grow as an individual. I recommend that you take time to learn these skills
I found a lot of truth in this book, things that helped me learn and grow as an individual. I recommend that you take time to learn these skills
November 1, 2020
After reading this book, I got some serious insight on my own personality traits.
Being an occassional people pleaser, I want to come out of the cycle by politely refusing to people's needs.
I also found that I have a high degree of FOMO, and I avoid conflicts with people.
I am gonna put some of the strategies mentioned to make my and other people's lives better.
Being an occassional people pleaser, I want to come out of the cycle by politely refusing to people's needs.
I also found that I have a high degree of FOMO, and I avoid conflicts with people.
I am gonna put some of the strategies mentioned to make my and other people's lives better.
October 26, 2021
Someone asks you for your time, attention, or money, and you respectfully decline the request.
That's the whole content of this book.
I am averse to most of the strategies the author is suggesting to follow.
That's the whole content of this book.
I am averse to most of the strategies the author is suggesting to follow.
November 26, 2020
هنرِ «۱۶۰ صفحه تکرار».
May 18, 2022
Писать ли отзыв к этой книге? Пожалуй, что нет =)
P.s. Какой-то отзыв Шрёдингера получается)
P.s. Какой-то отзыв Шрёдингера получается)
October 14, 2021
The ideas thrown in the book are generally fine, but don't offer anything groundbreaking or too interesting. It's your everyday self-helf book with a couple of nice points and a ton of accompanying filler to pad it into something that can be advertised and sold as an actual book.
It can be handily just replaced with the following short summary, and nothing of substance will be lost, but you'll sure save yourself a lot of time: https://paminy.com/summary-of-summary...
It can be handily just replaced with the following short summary, and nothing of substance will be lost, but you'll sure save yourself a lot of time: https://paminy.com/summary-of-summary...
May 16, 2021
Amazing book
This was an amazing book, it really teaches you how to say no with confidence and not to be persuaded to say yes because of a lot of insecurity and other people perception. It was short and concise,very good book with amazing tips.
This was an amazing book, it really teaches you how to say no with confidence and not to be persuaded to say yes because of a lot of insecurity and other people perception. It was short and concise,very good book with amazing tips.
January 26, 2019
Much needed read
Needed this book a lot. Glad i got it and most of the things made much sense. Just neede to read it written somewhere. Hope i can follow the instructions.
Needed this book a lot. Glad i got it and most of the things made much sense. Just neede to read it written somewhere. Hope i can follow the instructions.
February 20, 2020
I struggle with saying no. I’m a people pleaser and I don’t like letting people down. Sometimes I sacrifice myself because I feel a strong sense of obligation when a friend asks me something. That's why I picked up this book. This book is good. I liked it and it's short and it's a friendly solid piece of advice. I like the author and think they did a good job writing something fairly concise and practical. It's really about putting it into practice.
If I were to summarize the book in a sentence it would be: It's ok to say no and to prioritize yourself and your time as long as you do it honestly and candidly.
NOTES FROM READING:
Are you a natural-born people pleaser?
Do you prioritize other people over yourself?
No one will protect your priorities. It’s up to you to do so.
You can learn to say no with grace
Step 1. Be Assertive. Being assertive means expressing your needs and wants in the face of opposition. It doesn’t mean being dominant or rude. It’s declaring your point of view and not feeling you need others' approval or validation. At its basic form, it’s candid conversation.
Assertiveness is not aggressive. Assertiveness is respectful. Aggressive is belligerent.
Saying no can feel egocentric, mean, and cold-hearted.
We don’t want to offend anyone. We don’t want to appear selfish. We desire to help others. We want to be liked. We want approval. We want to appear valuable. We want a feeling of status.
You must care for yourself
Recognize and Overcome the impulse to say yes. Recognize your motivation for saying yes.
Be candid in your rejection and use the word “because”
If you know you’re going to say no, don’t stall for time. It will lead the other party on and delay something you are going to do. It also opens up the door to negotiation. It’s a worse way of handling things than being candid.
You are not responsible for other people’s reactions. As long as you are respectful, courteous and civil then you are not responsible for their reaction.
Question Method & Test:
1. Describe assertiveness in the context of the book.
2. How is assertiveness different from aggressiveness?
3. List some negative feelings that saying no can illicit and describe a counter argument to them.
4. Describe the “because” method.
5. There are 10 strategies for saying no in the book. List and describe 6.
If I were to summarize the book in a sentence it would be: It's ok to say no and to prioritize yourself and your time as long as you do it honestly and candidly.
NOTES FROM READING:
Are you a natural-born people pleaser?
Do you prioritize other people over yourself?
No one will protect your priorities. It’s up to you to do so.
You can learn to say no with grace
Step 1. Be Assertive. Being assertive means expressing your needs and wants in the face of opposition. It doesn’t mean being dominant or rude. It’s declaring your point of view and not feeling you need others' approval or validation. At its basic form, it’s candid conversation.
Assertiveness is not aggressive. Assertiveness is respectful. Aggressive is belligerent.
Saying no can feel egocentric, mean, and cold-hearted.
We don’t want to offend anyone. We don’t want to appear selfish. We desire to help others. We want to be liked. We want approval. We want to appear valuable. We want a feeling of status.
You must care for yourself
Recognize and Overcome the impulse to say yes. Recognize your motivation for saying yes.
Be candid in your rejection and use the word “because”
If you know you’re going to say no, don’t stall for time. It will lead the other party on and delay something you are going to do. It also opens up the door to negotiation. It’s a worse way of handling things than being candid.
You are not responsible for other people’s reactions. As long as you are respectful, courteous and civil then you are not responsible for their reaction.
Question Method & Test:
1. Describe assertiveness in the context of the book.
2. How is assertiveness different from aggressiveness?
3. List some negative feelings that saying no can illicit and describe a counter argument to them.
4. Describe the “because” method.
5. There are 10 strategies for saying no in the book. List and describe 6.
August 14, 2019
It is indeed an art, the art of saying no. The author makes it look simple as he underlines the importance of this art in the beginning, " Saying no to people is one of the most important skills you can develop". It is an essential ingredient of a successful personality and through practice it can be developed. Damon provides an action plan for this purpose.
January 1, 2020
Hmm... when u want to say no.. just say no.. that's it. No need to read a book on that. But if u want to get some body to support your stance to say no... just read it be happy and then say No... its up to u
January 4, 2022
Don't expect much from this - it repeats a handful of ideas through different chapters and everyday situations. However if you really struggle with saying no, you can quickly skim it and hope that the repetition helps you put in action what you already know.
March 23, 2022
Мы не в отвественности за эмоции других, надо почаще себе напоминать.
October 30, 2022
The book is very average with some good ideas. don't expect too much from it, most of the ideas are just common sense but yeah it's good for the quick read.
October 17, 2022
A line about this book
"Saying no can help reduce resentment that you may feel towards the person who made the request."
This book is about a person who is trying to improve their productivity and self growth. The key chapter is where Damon ask the readers to self analyze whether they are people pleaser or not by asking some prominent but important questions. Once we have analyzed that there exists the problem, author takes you on a journey where he gives all the practical tips on how to overcome the habit of saying “Yes”. The bonus part is where he explains how to say no in courteous manner to every aspect of life situations, ranging from relatives to spouse to coworkers.
This book is about, how to say no, and how to know when it is the right time to say no. The article says that even if we start to think about when we should say no, we will still find ourselves in situations where saying yes is the better decision.
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December 29, 2022
Really good one! 💛
December 25, 2023
It was good…it was okay. Kind of repetitive but nice for a short audiobook read, it was just a little over 2 hours.
December 30, 2023
Gave up on finishing it. A few good options for situations were provided; but it mostly stated the same idea of “No” over and over and just worded it slightly different each time.
March 9, 2022
Ёстой хөөрхөн ном байна
February 2, 2022
Quick read. Mostly common sense, but acts as a refresher on things you can do and approaches you can take
December 7, 2022
This book is really for pathological people pleasers, so your mileage may vary. I really, really struggle to say no in my professional life, and it is a problem. But I don't do it to please people. I scored pretty low on the people pleaser "quiz" in the book, but the author suggested the strategies would be valuable anyway. A few were, but they are ones I already implement. It is a good reminder to implement them more. For me, the best strategies in the book are to recommend someone more suited to the task (I often get these requests because someone else has done that with me....but I need to get better at saying that I can't either!); have categories of things you say no to (I have just started doing that with peer review....I am in the 97th percentile of reviewers....I am going to start saying no once I reach a certain number in a year); and asking that requesters follow up at a later time (I need to do this more often, as people often resolve a request in the meantime!). But ultimately this book isn't for people like me who just are really interested in a lot of things and enthusiastic about participating in lots of things. For people like me, a book that provides more structured ways of thinking about when to jump on an opportunity and when not to would be good. I have my methods, but they are imperfect. The book is simple and digestible, and easy to find what you are looking for when you want to go back and reference something, but ultimately there isn't enough content. There is a balance between parsimony and explanatory power. This book didn't get that right; at least not for me. Maybe if people pleasing is your problem, this will be for you.
November 8, 2022
"The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything." Warren Buffett
This was a very short book (less than an hour with 250% on Audible), the techiques were nothing revolutionary but if nothing else then it does remind you to stop and reconsider before you give that next automatic "yes" response.
Saying no because:
*If you say yes to anyone and everything, you'll have no time to focus on your needs, be overwhelmed, stressed, exhausted, and feel bitter and resentful towards the people taking up your time.
*We value things that are hard to attain, so if your friends and coworkers know you do not freely give away your time, they will appreciate your time more than if you simply said “yes” to every request.
*Every time you say “yes,” you say “no” to something you value.
Saying no without angering people:
*Categorical no's: When you give someone a categorical “no” by saying, "I've stopped," or, "I don't," or, "I have a rule," you make your “no” seem like an objective fact and not a personal rejection.
*Commitments: When you say “no” by referencing a commitment, people are generally understanding and rarely push back. No one likes to break commitments, so people do not want to pressure you into breaking your commitments.
*Counteroffers: nstead of saying “no” to someone's request, especially someone whose relationship you value greatly, say “no” to their initial request and counter with a smaller offer.
This was a very short book (less than an hour with 250% on Audible), the techiques were nothing revolutionary but if nothing else then it does remind you to stop and reconsider before you give that next automatic "yes" response.
Saying no because:
*If you say yes to anyone and everything, you'll have no time to focus on your needs, be overwhelmed, stressed, exhausted, and feel bitter and resentful towards the people taking up your time.
*We value things that are hard to attain, so if your friends and coworkers know you do not freely give away your time, they will appreciate your time more than if you simply said “yes” to every request.
*Every time you say “yes,” you say “no” to something you value.
Saying no without angering people:
*Categorical no's: When you give someone a categorical “no” by saying, "I've stopped," or, "I don't," or, "I have a rule," you make your “no” seem like an objective fact and not a personal rejection.
*Commitments: When you say “no” by referencing a commitment, people are generally understanding and rarely push back. No one likes to break commitments, so people do not want to pressure you into breaking your commitments.
*Counteroffers: nstead of saying “no” to someone's request, especially someone whose relationship you value greatly, say “no” to their initial request and counter with a smaller offer.
May 21, 2022
کتاب هنر نه گفتن یکی از کتاب های ساده روانشناسی است، و همه موضوعات کتاب حول محور نه گفتن میچرخد. این کتاب مجموعه راهکار های است که به ما می آموزد تا با اعتماد به نفس و بدون احساس گناه با گفتن کلمه “نه” از اتلاف وقت با ارزش مان برای دیگران، و حفظ توان کاری خود استفاده کنیم. در کتاب ذکر شده است که هنگامی برای دیگران کار می کنید، خواسته هایشان را بر آورده میسازید و به هر درخواست شان بلی میگوید باید تمام کار های شخصی خودتان را انجام داده باشید!
بیشتر ما بخاطر ارزش و احترام که به دیگران قائل هستیم از ارزش های خود میگذریم و هم وقت و توان کاری خود را صرف بر آورده کردن نیاز های دیگران می کنیم، این کار در بلند مدت باعث پر توقع شدن اطرافیان ما نسبت به ما میشود، و نیاز های خود مان بدون رسیدگی میمانند.
هر گاه که کلمه “نه” را استفاده میکنیم باید با حفظ احترام و ادب اداء شود،از روی قهر، خشم، غضب و بی حوصلگی اداء نکنیم، و اگر ضرورت باشد دلیل منطقی، قانع کننده و درست نه گفتن خود را ��یز بیان کنیم، در دلیل های مان باید صادق باشیم هیچ گاهی بهانه های دروغین نسازیم، این کار باعث بی اعتماد شدن اطرافیان ما نسبت به ما میشود.
نه گفتن باعث میشود که ما شکل واقعی خود را به دیگران نشان دهیم، به آنها گوشزد نماییم که ما هم انسان هستیم، به استراحت، به وقت کافی برای خودمان همچنان به توان کاری برای انجام کار های شخصی نیاز داریم.
بیشتر ما بخاطر ارزش و احترام که به دیگران قائل هستیم از ارزش های خود میگذریم و هم وقت و توان کاری خود را صرف بر آورده کردن نیاز های دیگران می کنیم، این کار در بلند مدت باعث پر توقع شدن اطرافیان ما نسبت به ما میشود، و نیاز های خود مان بدون رسیدگی میمانند.
هر گاه که کلمه “نه” را استفاده میکنیم باید با حفظ احترام و ادب اداء شود،از روی قهر، خشم، غضب و بی حوصلگی اداء نکنیم، و اگر ضرورت باشد دلیل منطقی، قانع کننده و درست نه گفتن خود را ��یز بیان کنیم، در دلیل های مان باید صادق باشیم هیچ گاهی بهانه های دروغین نسازیم، این کار باعث بی اعتماد شدن اطرافیان ما نسبت به ما میشود.
نه گفتن باعث میشود که ما شکل واقعی خود را به دیگران نشان دهیم، به آنها گوشزد نماییم که ما هم انسان هستیم، به استراحت، به وقت کافی برای خودمان همچنان به توان کاری برای انجام کار های شخصی نیاز داریم.
January 14, 2023
I guess I'm the party pooper here
I've only ever heard great things about this book and it really lifted my expectations. However, I don't think it met them. Granted, this book is probably not for me. I scored 25 in the quiz the author designed, which means I have no issues saying no. Even so, I felt the book was very repetitive. It was the same advice reworded and spread across multiple chapters. This is great for people who skim, but not ideal for people like me who intend to read the whole thing. Also, according to Kindle, I was 23% of the way through the book before the author stopped telling me what the book was going to tell me instead of just telling me via the book. I think 35% to 40% of the book is just the book talking about itself. I'm hoping The Art of Letting Go will be better as I have bought that as well.
I've only ever heard great things about this book and it really lifted my expectations. However, I don't think it met them. Granted, this book is probably not for me. I scored 25 in the quiz the author designed, which means I have no issues saying no. Even so, I felt the book was very repetitive. It was the same advice reworded and spread across multiple chapters. This is great for people who skim, but not ideal for people like me who intend to read the whole thing. Also, according to Kindle, I was 23% of the way through the book before the author stopped telling me what the book was going to tell me instead of just telling me via the book. I think 35% to 40% of the book is just the book talking about itself. I'm hoping The Art of Letting Go will be better as I have bought that as well.
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